Admitting to your parents that you like to smoke weed is probably one of the most complicated conversations you will ever have in your life. So, we are here to help you smooth out the process. Make the conversation a whole lot easier by taking some of the simple advice we lay out in this article.
- 1. They might already know about it
- 2. Speak confidently and prepare what you wish to say
- 3. Choose the time and place wisely
- 4. Be prepared for an unwanted reaction
- 5. Don’t hesitate to share a bit of knowledge
- 6. Leave legalities out of the conversation
- 7. Accept their desire for you not to smoke
- 8. Be sober
There is a dreaded conversation between every cannabis smoker and their parents. Or maybe it’s not the conversation itself that is dreaded so much, but the reaction. For so many cannabis users, it’s important to tell their parents that they have an affinity for this special herb.
Depending on how big a part of your life cannabis is, hiding it could be like hiding one of the most important parts of yourself. This is an extremely exhausting task – especially when you’re hiding it from your parents.
Telling conservative parents about your green habit is by no means an easy task. It is probably going to be really awkward. It could be really frustrating. But it doesn’t have to be the kind of conversation that leaves everybody non-verbal for the next few months.
Yes, it’s a strange time. You’re about to be a grown-up and tell your parents the truth. And we have some very healthy tips to get you on your way.
1. They might already know about it
Especially if you still live with your parents, they might already know that you smoke pot, even if you’ve tried to hide it. They have probably spent hours online themselves, asking Google why their child comes home and walks straight to the refrigerator. There’s not really any other party drugs that make you want to eat more now, is there?
So, before you get too nervous about breaking the big news to them, consider that they might already know. This really is one of the best possible outcomes and would certainly avoid the initial potential shock.
2. Speak confidently and prepare what you wish to say
When you approach your parents about smoking weed, it’s important to speak confidently. There is a difference between confidence and arrogance, by the way. At the end of the day, they are also speaking from many years more life experience than you. But if you are confident about your choice, you can speak matter-of-factly.
If you shy away from really opening up in the moment, it might be hard for them to trust you. If you need to, prepare what you are going to say to them. Try not to sound too rehearsed, but preparing can help you to say what you need to clearly and succinctly.
We’ve gathered some articles with relevant info for you:
- The 10 most common myths
- A little about the stoner stereotype and why it’s wrong
- An overview of the short-term and long-term effects of THC
- And best of all, an article dedicated to the fact that cannabis is not a gateway drug
3. Choose the time and place wisely
Initiating a healthy conversation is going to depend a lot on when and where you decide to break the news. If your parents are going through a particularly difficult period in their lives, this is news that can wait a little while. Pick a moment when everybody is feeling somewhat relaxed.
Avoid having this kind of “serious” conversation when there are loads of other people around, too. It’s not really anyone else’s business and it’s not fair to your parents. Be mindful that they might be sensitive about it. And don’t do it on the phone. Face to face is always much more courteous!
4. Be prepared for an unwanted reaction
The reason that it’s probably so terrifying to speak to your parents about smoking weed is because they probably won’t like it. Of course, an emotional breakdown is not the reaction you want. But it could be the one that you get.
Don’t try to keep explaining yourself during a meltdown. If things get extremely emotional and out of hand, it’s probably best to leave things and resume the conversation after everybody has cooled down a little bit. Don’t freak out if they freak out! Just try to remain calm!
5. Don’t hesitate to share a bit of knowledge
If you can see that the conversation is leading that way and that your parents are receptive, inform them. Perhaps the reason that they are a bit hesitant to accept your weed smoking habits is because they don’t really know anything about weed.
If you use cannabis to deal with some health issues, let them know how it is helping you. Share the kind of information that led you to using weed as a medicine in the first place. And if you use recreationally, make some comparisons to the widely accepted alcohol!
6. Leave legalities out of the conversation
Your parents might be very tempted to talk about the legal complications of smoking weed. More specifically, they might try to use it as a way to convince you to stop. But it’s best to leave this topic out of the conversation.
There’s no use admitting that what you are doing is illegal and that if you get caught you’ll be behind bars (if you live somewhere like that). It will just make them fear more. Rather, just remind them that you are responsible and that it is highly unlikely you’ll ever be arrested for your cannabis use.
7. Accept their desire for you not to smoke
If your parents aren’t the kind of new age people you wish they were, they might really abhor the idea of you smoking weed. Their desire for you to not do it probably comes from a good – and ignorant – place. Let it be so. Remember that your intention was never to bring them over to the green side. It was to tell them the truth.
You don’t really need them to like your cannabis smoking habits. If they can’t accept it, just do your best not to let it get in the way of a healthy relationship. And the best thing you can do to ensure that is to accept that they don’t want you to do it. It doesn’t mean you have to stop – it just means that you respect their opinions!
8. Be sober
You heard that right. Please don’t show up to this important meeting high. We understand you’re an advocate for the use of cannabis. But you don’t need to add insult to their injury by showing up red-eyed and like a Trainwreck. You can wait until after to smoke that precious joint – and it will be well earned!
Your parents are the people who probably care the most about you. At the same time, that makes them the hardest people to be honest with. But you only ever have to break the news once. After that, the conversation should flow much more freely. Especially because you won’t be hiding your smoking habits anymore!
So, breathe, relax, and use our advice before starting the important conversation with your parents. Did you break the news yet? How did it go? We’d love to hear from you, please share your story in the comments!